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This is so very good! Practical and actionable insight on dealing with the highly narcissistic person.

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Sep 29, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

I *LOVE* no. 5 on the list. The myriad ways to say sorry-not-sorry. I ran across a great one today: “No one is more sorry than I am.”

So good. 🤣

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May 22, 2022Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

This is a good piece and representative of large scale patterns going on in 2022. Many feel they encounter toxic narcissism from relationships to governments, corporations, institutions today. Not to mention that our slick, media driven and social media-centered environments selects for toxic narcissism.

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Mar 22Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Good article and good advice. My advice is generally to avoid pathological narcissists/Dark Triad types full stop. If you cant avoid, and must deal like in the workplace, your four points are very good.

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Dec 28, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Narcissism can be a double-edged sword. While hubris is bad, people who are egotistic and self-assured can sometimes be beneficial to society. Private vice, public virtue. Any thoughts?

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Jun 26, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Thank you Doctor. Excellent advice...especially the bit about eliminating an expectation of ethical conduct. When you know that this individual considers lying to be a survival strategy and also an inalienable right, it changes your perspective. My aging narcissistic parent has lost her ability to cleverly construct her lies because senility has slipped in. Now it is constant dishonesty, making statements that are ridiculous and almost laughable. Her mask of sanity has slipped and she can't get it back on. It's interesting to witness this.

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May 7, 2023Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

In releasing myself from formal work structures and starting my freelance ore rice I’ve significantly reduced my exposure to narcissists. But of course, as is the way of these things, a doozy has popped up right in the centre of the world of my most important client and it’s not a person I can avoid. So, as always , a super timely post !

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I’ve had quite a few narcissists in my life, and these posts of yours are very helpful. It’s like seeing a map and realizing, ah-- I’ve been there before.

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