The topic for this thread is all about your family system, and specifically about understanding the role of the Black Sheep or Scapegoat of the family. Your family can be a biological, friend group, community or workplace family.
You can read more about these roles in the family system here.
What is your experience of being or witnessing the Black Sheep or Scapegoat of your family OR in a friend group, workplace team or any community (online or in person)?
I've received messages about being the Golden Child.
From a Black Sheep's perspective: the Golden Child is favoured because they're most like the parent who seems to rule the roost. They are given everything and get away with everything. They're also aware they're the favourite and do everything to ensure they keep things that way. It's easy for the Golden Child.
From a Golden Child: They are expected to be perfect and fulfil the parent's fantasies of 'what's best' for them. They're often seen as the emotional support and are required to be at the beck and call to the emotionally dysregulated parent. Their needs are irrelevent and their obligation is to the parent's and others' needs first. It's hard being the Golden Child.
I struggle to identify the golden child in my family.. We all (5) seemed to be Black sheep. We were all asked to leave as soon as we were financially able and asked not to return. Are there other family models?
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I've received messages about being the Golden Child.
From a Black Sheep's perspective: the Golden Child is favoured because they're most like the parent who seems to rule the roost. They are given everything and get away with everything. They're also aware they're the favourite and do everything to ensure they keep things that way. It's easy for the Golden Child.
From a Golden Child: They are expected to be perfect and fulfil the parent's fantasies of 'what's best' for them. They're often seen as the emotional support and are required to be at the beck and call to the emotionally dysregulated parent. Their needs are irrelevent and their obligation is to the parent's and others' needs first. It's hard being the Golden Child.
What's your experiences of this?
I struggle to identify the golden child in my family.. We all (5) seemed to be Black sheep. We were all asked to leave as soon as we were financially able and asked not to return. Are there other family models?