Oh my goodness. I went cold reading this. This happened to me TWICE. I work with doctors in the UK. When one dr leader treated me like this, I saw what was happening and tried to manage the relationship as I loved the job. I rode out the first cycle of disgrace and we seemed to be on a more even footing but I never fully trusted her. When the second cycle came, I identified it immediately and called it out, withdrew. She was no longer officially in charge by then.
Her replacement had been grooming me for a year, whilst waiting to take over. They both held lead roles in a project that needed me but they took the chair and I was happy to contribute even though I didn't get the recognition, glory and awards they got from our work.
When the replacement took over he dropped me like a hot potato. Having spent a year promising me things would be so different, using the recognition of the narcissism to win my trust, croticising the way she and another lead had treated me, he then employed full on disgrace tactics. Unpleasant phone calls after dark, changing plans without telling me, criticising my work in private but supporting it in public and piloting a new venture i had created without me.
I left. He tried to talk me round - privately, and publicly blamed the organisation we worked for. I tried to tell him it was his treatment of me that led to my resignation but he was deaf to anything I said.
To this day people think I left because of the organisation.
He had started to groom a far less experienced or qualified replacement. The wider team are mystified at the cluelessness of the replacement. The product suffers but his standing remains. I guess that's all that matters to him.
Interestingly I hear his health has been poor -, I wonder if his conscience somehow knows.
Knowing this is a phenomenon and that it happens to others helps enormously. At one point I got physically ill and thought I was going mad.
It was only by working with a team on the same job in another country, who are supportive respectful, hard working, egalitarian and a total joy, that I realised just how horrifically damaging and damaged these UK drs are. The environment here has reduced them to desperate children. How sad is that?
This is exactly what happened to me.. I gave my CEO a comprehensive team based care plan that would have taken our center forward to a high-quality, high-functioning center. The plan was financially lucrative as well. Staff morale was high as they were excited about this project. The care given previously to this marginalized population was subpar at best and people were harmed. The staff was thrilled to see this change coming. My boss began to slowly tear down my plan, piece by piece, until it was destroyed. I asked for her reasoning and the alternate plan. There is none.
I was asked to leave yesterday after reporting to the board of directors. Escorted out by security.
Chills. I too went cold. I’d like to say it’s only happened twice but for me it was a dastardly pattern as well. It took me years and years to work it out. Nathalie nails it yet again !
Oh my goodness. I went cold reading this. This happened to me TWICE. I work with doctors in the UK. When one dr leader treated me like this, I saw what was happening and tried to manage the relationship as I loved the job. I rode out the first cycle of disgrace and we seemed to be on a more even footing but I never fully trusted her. When the second cycle came, I identified it immediately and called it out, withdrew. She was no longer officially in charge by then.
Her replacement had been grooming me for a year, whilst waiting to take over. They both held lead roles in a project that needed me but they took the chair and I was happy to contribute even though I didn't get the recognition, glory and awards they got from our work.
When the replacement took over he dropped me like a hot potato. Having spent a year promising me things would be so different, using the recognition of the narcissism to win my trust, croticising the way she and another lead had treated me, he then employed full on disgrace tactics. Unpleasant phone calls after dark, changing plans without telling me, criticising my work in private but supporting it in public and piloting a new venture i had created without me.
I left. He tried to talk me round - privately, and publicly blamed the organisation we worked for. I tried to tell him it was his treatment of me that led to my resignation but he was deaf to anything I said.
To this day people think I left because of the organisation.
He had started to groom a far less experienced or qualified replacement. The wider team are mystified at the cluelessness of the replacement. The product suffers but his standing remains. I guess that's all that matters to him.
Interestingly I hear his health has been poor -, I wonder if his conscience somehow knows.
Knowing this is a phenomenon and that it happens to others helps enormously. At one point I got physically ill and thought I was going mad.
It was only by working with a team on the same job in another country, who are supportive respectful, hard working, egalitarian and a total joy, that I realised just how horrifically damaging and damaged these UK drs are. The environment here has reduced them to desperate children. How sad is that?
This is exactly what happened to me.. I gave my CEO a comprehensive team based care plan that would have taken our center forward to a high-quality, high-functioning center. The plan was financially lucrative as well. Staff morale was high as they were excited about this project. The care given previously to this marginalized population was subpar at best and people were harmed. The staff was thrilled to see this change coming. My boss began to slowly tear down my plan, piece by piece, until it was destroyed. I asked for her reasoning and the alternate plan. There is none.
I was asked to leave yesterday after reporting to the board of directors. Escorted out by security.
Chills. I too went cold. I’d like to say it’s only happened twice but for me it was a dastardly pattern as well. It took me years and years to work it out. Nathalie nails it yet again !