Hi there, I stumbled upon this after a blow up with my 18 year old son. He’s still in high school and lives with us. I really related to #5 of your post. I’ve loved him unconditionally as has his dad since he was born. He’s changed during high school, got in with a crowd of very wealthy friends, and is very intelligent. He’s (as I’ve been told by others in my life who know us) become self entitled and as of vm last night, verbally abusive. I don’t know if he’s a narcissist or how to deal with him increased demands for money and complaints about how we aren’t being good parents. He’s been given everything he needs plus many of his “wants” and I’m always coming to save him when he’s out of money or whatever ( flushed his cars keys accidentally down the toilet yesterday) but it’s never enough. Any advice is appreciated if you see this. Thanks 🙏🏼 !
That's an extraordinary description of what really happens. D(eny) A(ttack) R(everse) V(inctim) O(ffender) and blind betrayal from Dr. Jennifer Freyd is also a great tool to to unmask the great lie and the great betrayal on which their dynamic of destruction is based.
Excellent insight. Your comment about this applying to organizations too is critical. As a recovering Southern Baptist who was married to a narcissistic minister, I can see how much of these characteristics can also apply to high demand religions. Thanks for sharing.
This reminded me of the transactional world. It's like the profile of every top producing sales guy I ever worked with or hired. Or guys who raise money for a living. Or some deal-makers I encountered. You're just another deal/transaction/sale/conquest - until you're not. Your 6 steps are what you might call "deal tension". It's a wooing. Once the tension breaks - when it's time to paper and close it - you are often left to figure it out. Or you've decided to take another path or purchase something else or not invest - then it can get testy, sometimes even nasty. The narcissist has been insulted, besmirched even! You've missed your big opportunity, etc. By then, they're usually well along to the next one. So, a pathology as a skill-set that makes the world go round.
Hi there, I stumbled upon this after a blow up with my 18 year old son. He’s still in high school and lives with us. I really related to #5 of your post. I’ve loved him unconditionally as has his dad since he was born. He’s changed during high school, got in with a crowd of very wealthy friends, and is very intelligent. He’s (as I’ve been told by others in my life who know us) become self entitled and as of vm last night, verbally abusive. I don’t know if he’s a narcissist or how to deal with him increased demands for money and complaints about how we aren’t being good parents. He’s been given everything he needs plus many of his “wants” and I’m always coming to save him when he’s out of money or whatever ( flushed his cars keys accidentally down the toilet yesterday) but it’s never enough. Any advice is appreciated if you see this. Thanks 🙏🏼 !
Very much resembles the relationship I am currently in with my government. 😯
That's an extraordinary description of what really happens. D(eny) A(ttack) R(everse) V(inctim) O(ffender) and blind betrayal from Dr. Jennifer Freyd is also a great tool to to unmask the great lie and the great betrayal on which their dynamic of destruction is based.
Excellent insight. Your comment about this applying to organizations too is critical. As a recovering Southern Baptist who was married to a narcissistic minister, I can see how much of these characteristics can also apply to high demand religions. Thanks for sharing.
This reminded me of the transactional world. It's like the profile of every top producing sales guy I ever worked with or hired. Or guys who raise money for a living. Or some deal-makers I encountered. You're just another deal/transaction/sale/conquest - until you're not. Your 6 steps are what you might call "deal tension". It's a wooing. Once the tension breaks - when it's time to paper and close it - you are often left to figure it out. Or you've decided to take another path or purchase something else or not invest - then it can get testy, sometimes even nasty. The narcissist has been insulted, besmirched even! You've missed your big opportunity, etc. By then, they're usually well along to the next one. So, a pathology as a skill-set that makes the world go round.
Loved reading this!