Damn Nathalie - this kinda causes distress because I fit a lot of the criteria for being at risk of becoming a bully. I don’t trust easily and I find myself constantly looking for what the hustle might be. I got a little anxiety going all of a sudden!
Also, I’ve read numerous studies that claim that bullies receive a dopamine reward that’s almost analogous to cocaine when they’re especially successful at cruelty. What’s your take on that? Valid / not valid?
It sounds like you’ve identified some areas of vulnerability which is a good thing because you also have your discernment on. The next step to reduce the suspicion level is to notice qualities that make the other person trustworthy AND untrustworthy. This brings balance and a more realistic perspective on the individual so you can adapt your expectations to what is reasonable.
That makes sense. I feel like that’s a really humanizing outlook to take as well - like recognizing the individual trees that make up the forest. Thank You!
The fact that bullies are repeat offenders, I would suggest that the behaviour is driven by addiction power
Damn Nathalie - this kinda causes distress because I fit a lot of the criteria for being at risk of becoming a bully. I don’t trust easily and I find myself constantly looking for what the hustle might be. I got a little anxiety going all of a sudden!
Also, I’ve read numerous studies that claim that bullies receive a dopamine reward that’s almost analogous to cocaine when they’re especially successful at cruelty. What’s your take on that? Valid / not valid?
Anyone receives a dopamine reward when they’ve done something that makes them feel powerful, especially after feeling powerless.
So can bullying become addictive?
It sounds like you’ve identified some areas of vulnerability which is a good thing because you also have your discernment on. The next step to reduce the suspicion level is to notice qualities that make the other person trustworthy AND untrustworthy. This brings balance and a more realistic perspective on the individual so you can adapt your expectations to what is reasonable.
That makes sense. I feel like that’s a really humanizing outlook to take as well - like recognizing the individual trees that make up the forest. Thank You!