Interesting. I haven't had to deal with this in decades, since I became an atheist. I've heard that women deal with this stuff all the time, but I only saw it in my dysfunctional family of origin, and the toxic cesspool of fundamentalist religion.
Thank you Nathalie. You described my experience to a t.
The flying monkey friends had some lukewarm non apologies years later, but at the time fiercely defended their betrayal (and loyalty to the ringleader), painting the perpetrator as the victim and me, as the perpetrator, for creating distance after the mobbing incident.
I’ve been friendly with my ex friends but never able to recuperate the friendships. They were some of the nearest and dearest to me— in fact, my two best friends at the time— and one betrayed me to the perp, telling them that I had began therapy. When I confronted her about the betrayal, and told her the perp was a wolf in sheep’s clothing, she said she was “flabbergasted”. Lol.
Interesting. I haven't had to deal with this in decades, since I became an atheist. I've heard that women deal with this stuff all the time, but I only saw it in my dysfunctional family of origin, and the toxic cesspool of fundamentalist religion.
Thank you Nathalie. You described my experience to a t.
The flying monkey friends had some lukewarm non apologies years later, but at the time fiercely defended their betrayal (and loyalty to the ringleader), painting the perpetrator as the victim and me, as the perpetrator, for creating distance after the mobbing incident.
I’ve been friendly with my ex friends but never able to recuperate the friendships. They were some of the nearest and dearest to me— in fact, my two best friends at the time— and one betrayed me to the perp, telling them that I had began therapy. When I confronted her about the betrayal, and told her the perp was a wolf in sheep’s clothing, she said she was “flabbergasted”. Lol.
Thank you so much for this brilliant writing that I needed to read.