I struggled with every one of the challenging behaviors on your list and I endured it and educated myself and healed and grew and did eventually get to a place where I wasn't triggered by those behaviors anymore. That whole process took about ten years. I still ended up going no contact. For one, I realized that putting my daughters in the presence of those challenging behaviors would not be right. I didn't want my parenting experience to consist of so much of me coaching my children on how to be resilient to their extended family's disrespect. But I also realized that I never deserved the mistreatment and even though their behaviors didn't hurt me anymore, they just weren't contributing enough positive to seem worth maintaining.
I struggled with every one of the challenging behaviors on your list and I endured it and educated myself and healed and grew and did eventually get to a place where I wasn't triggered by those behaviors anymore. That whole process took about ten years. I still ended up going no contact. For one, I realized that putting my daughters in the presence of those challenging behaviors would not be right. I didn't want my parenting experience to consist of so much of me coaching my children on how to be resilient to their extended family's disrespect. But I also realized that I never deserved the mistreatment and even though their behaviors didn't hurt me anymore, they just weren't contributing enough positive to seem worth maintaining.