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Jan 11Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

A woman bought a house in this small town. She taught yoga and led bird walks and drum circles and volunteered for everything. I had just left an abusive relationship and she became my "best friend" - invitations, phone calls, got me to attend a woman's support group with her where she eventually expressed her belief that I deserved the abuse because I did something or other (I didn't stick around to hear her reasoning - which the facilitator was not shutting down) and the only answer was for me to sell my house and move. I was kicked out of her yoga class when I said no. She told me she could no longer be my friend because I didn't want her help. I later saw a photo of her with the abusive ex so I think there are parts to this story that I will never know but I do know I felt uncomfortable about the large way she came into my life and I ignored it. I won't make that mistake again. I trust no one.

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Jan 12Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Your list of characteristics of the "Social Injustice Warrior" provided an excellent description of an archetype that definitely exists in the alternative spirituality universe. I think my dad was also a Christian version of this archetype. I personally believe he truly did have some dramatic supernatural experiences, but the way he sometimes wielded the authority of these experiences over others to push his own agenda was not great. I recently wrote more about that on my blog: https://astrologybooks.substack.com/p/more-on-the-miami-mall-aliens

My current main slice of the alternative spirituality universe, astrology, has some protection against this phenomenon in that it has a tether to objective reality. Astrologers are human and can have conflict with each other just like anyone else, but ultimately Saturn is either opposing your Sun at the moment or it is not — there is an actual mathematical answer rather than one person's subjective experience against another's.

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Jan 24Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

Reminds me of support groups and the push to open up to a stranger. Sometimes if we are open with things that have happened to us and know these things, it gives us the upperhand as we get to see how not only are we percieved( adjust accordingly) but we also get to see who they are. Awesome article.

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Jan 13Liked by Nathalie Martinek PhD

This is helpful.

Once you start to see it, you can't unsee it.

I like--and appreciate--your descriptions of groom-immunity. It takes a lot of practice, doesn't it?

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You totally lost me with your reference to Yuri Bezmenov who, like other males of the right wing, makes misogynistic and racist statements on the regular. Your false statements that activism is synonymous with narcissism also concern me given your credentials. Activism is a response to societal injustice. Your statements seem very biased toward the right wing. Is that the audience you pander to? They are the most likely to viciously troll me, including impersonating me with stolen photos and issuing threats of violence.

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