I have seen this happen to others but rarely experience it myself on LinkedIn or even here…i never engage for my own sanity…can you apply this thinking to nasty book reviews? I’m serious…what is up with people trash other people’s books? or is this different somehow…?
This was fantastic Nathalie, thank you. I experienced this on the creator end. When a subset of my audience discovered I was no longer on their ‘team’ when it came to the topic of Israel and Hamas, hundreds unfollowed, but first left very nasty, accusatory, ad hominem attacks and accusations.
It affected me a lot at first, because I was triggered into feeling scapegoated— something I experienced in my nuclear family and other relationships. I took it personally, just like they did.
I did not respond at first, I took a deep breath, and a break. I stopped having arguments with the commenters in my head, and accepted that they saw things differently and felt the need to project onto me publicly.
Finally, I stuck to my own principles and beliefs (after contemplating them and examining them, and why I was so triggered), and carried on creating work that was true to me.
I really appreciate the insights in this post— they are spot on. I became perpetrator in the eyes of many, and they became my ‘victims’. I had to disengage from their karpman drama triangle, and then my own— where I was victim and they, perpetrators, and just accept that people are in different places on their journey, and I don’t need to justify, argue, defend or explain myself.
I have seen this happen to others but rarely experience it myself on LinkedIn or even here…i never engage for my own sanity…can you apply this thinking to nasty book reviews? I’m serious…what is up with people trash other people’s books? or is this different somehow…?
This was fantastic Nathalie, thank you. I experienced this on the creator end. When a subset of my audience discovered I was no longer on their ‘team’ when it came to the topic of Israel and Hamas, hundreds unfollowed, but first left very nasty, accusatory, ad hominem attacks and accusations.
It affected me a lot at first, because I was triggered into feeling scapegoated— something I experienced in my nuclear family and other relationships. I took it personally, just like they did.
I did not respond at first, I took a deep breath, and a break. I stopped having arguments with the commenters in my head, and accepted that they saw things differently and felt the need to project onto me publicly.
Finally, I stuck to my own principles and beliefs (after contemplating them and examining them, and why I was so triggered), and carried on creating work that was true to me.
I really appreciate the insights in this post— they are spot on. I became perpetrator in the eyes of many, and they became my ‘victims’. I had to disengage from their karpman drama triangle, and then my own— where I was victim and they, perpetrators, and just accept that people are in different places on their journey, and I don’t need to justify, argue, defend or explain myself.
It helped me to develop a thicker skin!