First - thank you for sticking with me. Your support fuels my obsession to dissect concepts to extract nuance and present ideas in ways that can be implemented into your daily life. My work is intended to facilitate insight and desired personal and interpersonal change. I’m grateful to all of you who have shared your experiences of how my work has impacted you. Please keep letting me know about it!
I have steered away from writing about cultural trends and narcissism in society except for rare occasions. There are plenty of great writers already doing this. But if you have questions about annoying/upsetting things in relationships or situations you’d like me to analyse, please add them to the comment below.
My belief is that if we can't nail our issues in 1:1 relationships, we have little hope to do it on a macrocosmic scale. Our relationships are laboratories for learning about ourselves, our reactions, habits and traits to develop relating competence by hacking our narcissistic tendencies.
My job is to assist others to develop awareness, challenge beliefs about relationships and behaviours, bust myths, develop new-ish concepts and propose alternative theories and constructs to understanding yourself in the context of your relationships…and why they’re working or not.
I have a few things in the pipeline. Next piece coming up is on preventing saviour burnout at work.
I’m also working on a series for annual subscribers only to help interrupt your triggers and reactions, and improve your capacity to respond differently to annoying people and situations. You will learn about your default reactive states and assumptions and how they guide your behaviours unconsciously and unintentionally.
You’ll be given new tools based on Karpman’s Drama Triad to deconstruct your assumptions and interpretations of information and reconstruct new perspectives guided by critical reflection skills that liberate you from drama, distress and reactivity. I developed this approach back into 2018 and tested it out with medical/healthcare professionals to challenge their practice and support their facilitation of beneficial change for others.
I hope this series that will be housed under a separate tab piques your interest!
Before I love you and leave you, I have two more requests.
Please let others in your network know about Hacking Narcissism, especially if individuals are going through rough waters of interpersonal conflict. Feel free to share this Padlet link with them to get a selection of pieces that provide a foundation for understanding a range of interpersonal dynamics.
I’m inviting you to pick my experience and expertise on all things relationships without being a knowledge vampire. Here are some prompting questions:
What are the things that upset you about other people’s behaviour?
What situations are occurring in your life that make you feel trapped in a cycle of drama and conflict that could do with strategies to disentangle yourself from it?
What are the difficulties in your workplace that make doing your job tougher?
For women, what are the issues that arise between you and other women?
What do you want to know from me about the things you’re trying to manage and navigate, even if it’s reassurance about your approach?
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I’m here to answer these and other related questions you have. I’m also here to have my concepts, ideas and processes challenged by you too. Let ‘er rip!
The subject of the rise of Social Media and it creating a wave of narcism.
The effects of conditioning and dopamine highs resulting in "me me me" style thinking. We all know people who are only concerned with how anything will affect their "likes".
The subject of the rise of Social Media and it creating a wave of narcism.
The effects of conditioning and dopamine highs resulting in "me me me" style thinking. We all know people who are only concerned with how anything will affect their "likes".
Thanks Antipodes! I can happily speak to this issue and the addiction to attention via social media engagement.